Please on thing at a time,
yes this site does not use this mod, it is true, you did not noticed ?
This site's code has been massively rewrited, a lot more than just the forum url will be different from any other.
This is experimental, and is not really releasable, way to many code changes.
The phpBB SEO mod tend to be an easy to use and install working solution for all, it's doing just slightly differents things.
If you want to really compare things,
http://phpbb2.phpbb-seo.net/ is actually using the same exact code as you will in a very short while, as soon as we'll have discover what is wrong with the subforum mod.
It's a pity you cannot post links for me to actually see what's happening cause I am still not sure I understood well what is wrong (you did not make it more clear sorry).
So can you tel me precisely on which page what is and is not working as links : 1) does the links appears rewrited in the code's page + example and 2) are they usable.
Don't worry we'll find this patch.
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